Social Media Etiquette for Wedding Guests

Wait before posting your Congratulations

Don’t post anything about the couple’s engagement or wedding announcement before you’ve checked with them. They might still have people that they would like to inform about their plans. Unless of course they’ve announced it on social media themselves.

Never post photos of the Bridal Gown before the day

You might be privy to see the wedding dress before the wedding, or even go gown shopping with the bride. You don’t want to steal the look on the groom’s face when he sees the bride walking down the aisle in her dress for the first time.

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Be sensitive when posting about the Wedding arrangements

It is more than likely that not all of the bride and groom’s friends have been invited to their wedding. This way you avoid possible awkwardness for the couple.

Don’t take photos during the Ceremony

This could get in the way of the professional photographer but also try and just be in the moment. Some times are best to leave the smartphone in your purse or pocket.

Stay clear of the professional wedding photographer

Unless the bride and groom have specifically requested that you refrain from taking any photos, most couples will probably be happy if you take a few. But stay clear of the professional photographer and do not try and catch the bride and groom’s attention while they’re busy with their photographer!

Show the Bride and Groom in the best light

This is their special day and they’ve probably paid a lot of money to have a professional photographer. Be kind and respectful and don’t post photos of the bride and groom that will show them in a bad light.

Ask permission before you share

The best way to go about it is to first ask the bridal couple for permission before posting any photos or videos of them. Find out if they have a designated social media coordinator that will first vet all images.

Use the wedding Hashtag #

The reason for the hashtag is so that all their wedding photos will be in one place. Do use the hashtag and encourage others to do the same.

Only use the areas designated for cell phone use

Some bridal couples will ask you to only use your mobile phone in designated areas. Do respect the couple’s wishes, and if the wedding is unplugged, put your phone away and just enjoy the day with them. You’d be surprised how much fun you could have without your phone!

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* TIP for the Bride and Groom – Appoint one of your bridesmaids as social media coordinator, to oversee all aspects of the social media before, during and after the Wedding. This person can create your custom wedding hashtag, inform all the guests of the social media etiquette, keep the guests in line, and collect and vet all the images after the wedding.

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Social Media Etiquette at Weddings

Probably one of the most wonderful times of your life, meeting that special person, falling in love, getting engaged and then planning your big day. People have been falling in love and getting married since the beginning of times, but are the rules still the same when it comes to wedding etiquette or do we need a new set of rules to guide us through this transition from man and woman to husband and wife?

We look at things to consider when tweeting, posting and using hashtags.

Announce your wedding face-to-face
You might arrange the rest of your social life using social media, but this is one event that should preferably be announced to the people close to you in person or on the telephone first. They will certainly appreciate the courtesy but you also don’t want to miss out on seeing their facial expressions when you announce your engagement!

Think before you post
This should be a general rule-of-thumb for using social media, but do consider other people before posting. Some of your social media friends may not have been invited so refrain from posting too much detail about the wedding. Also try not to overkill, your friends will grow weary from reading about your wedding planning for a full year before the actual event! Keep your posts positive no one wants to read about your dirty laundry and mother-in-lawzilla on Facebook.

Should wedding guests be allowed to post pictures of your wedding?
This really is up to the couple but you have every right to ask your guests not to post any photographs to social media. You can include this request in your wedding invitation, and also have a reminder on your wedding day. Keep it fun and light-hearted. Instead ask your guests to send all their photos to you for inspection first and then post them to the album on your wedding website where everyone can view them.

Create a wedding hashtag
This is a really fun thing to do for your wedding and can be hugely exciting to look at after your I-do’s. This also puts all your guests wedding photos in one place. Include your wedding hashtag in your wedding invitation, on your wedding website and as a reminder again on your wedding day. You can make this even more entertaining by handing out your hashtag as a temporary tattoo on the day #mrandmrshitched. Who knows your hashtag might even help some of your single guests to get hooked up!

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Social Media and Getting Married

Today’s bride is doing things a little bit differently than the bride of a decade ago. From the moment she gets engaged till she gets married and after. Everything gets recorded on social media. You will see one of the first things a bride does is announce her engagement with a picture of her ring on Facebook.

According to, within hours of saying “yes,” 28% of brides-to-be update their social media statuses, while 24% do so the next day. And then of course the wedding planning starts and no bride today does so without the help of Pinterest. In fact 70% of women were already pinning on Pinterest before even getting engaged.

Social Media is a great tool for planning your wedding and collecting pictures and ideas about venues, décor, flowers, wedding dresses and your wedding cake. But social media can also create problems for the happy couple. Think about the gushing mother of the bride that pre-maturely announces her daughter’s engagement on Facebook and stealing their thunder, before the newly-engaged couple gets a chance to do so themselves. Or an overenthusiastic bridesmaid posts a picture of the bride in her wedding gown and shares it with the world even before the lucky groom has a chance to see her walk down the aisle.

This can be very worrying for any engaged couple planning their wedding, especially if you are of the more camera/social-media shy populace. If the bride-to-be is hoping to immortalize her beautiful wedding day and have the best wedding photographer take only the most dazzling and flattering photos, then she won’t be too happy with a shutter-bug cousin posting a photo of her on Facebook stuffing wedding cake in her mouth in a rather insalubrious fashion.

With this in mind it is only natural and fair that as a Bride you can have some Social Media Etiquette at your Wedding.

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