Planning a wedding is a complicated task, requiring nerves of steel to navigate all the possible pitfalls, stay on track and make the right decisions. Whether the wedding is a small intimate affair or a grand statement of the wedding couple's union, the wedding is always a sacred event. Trying to cater for multiple religions or cultures can present quite a challenge. While it is important to stay true to the couples closely held beliefs and cultures, a successful multicultural wedding does require a measure of compromise.
Communication is the key
The trouble with people is that they have preconceived ideas and when those expectations are not met there is much drama and hurt feelings. From the beginning of the planning process, keep the cultural and religious influences that will be incorporated into the wedding in the open.
Educate the guests of your intentions
If the wedding requires that the guests wear certain religious items such as a Kippah (Jewish skullcap), inform in advance. Expect a few guests form other cultures to resist and have a backup plan to handle or accommodate their wishes.
If the wedding uses cultural traditions, include a brief explanation of their significance in the wedding program.
Don’t try to please everyone
Having two different weddings to cater for both cultures is expensive. However, trying to cram everything from different cultures into a single wedding ceremony can lead to disaster. Be selective in which traditions to include, a wedding is a perfect event to explore different cultures, so used this moment to introduce the family and guests to some of your cultural traditions.
Be open when approaching a multicultural wedding, as these can lead to some surprising and memorable fusions of traditions, food, outfits, music and décor. Remember, the only person you really need to impress is your partner.
