5 Wedding Questions Answered – Gauteng Wedding Venue

Who do we tell first about the engagement?

Nowadays the world has become so small, news can be shared automatically to everyone through social media channels. But be careful before you broadcast your big news. Make sure that you tell the most important people in your life, in a more personal way first. Like parents, if there are any kids involved, best friends, etc.

Do you give Engagement Gifts?

This really is your personal choice, and won’t be expected from you. Be delicate in your presenting the gift, you don’t want others to feel as though they’ve had to bring a gift to the engagement party.

Can I ask anyone to walk me down the aisle?

Traditionally it is the father of the bride that walks the bride down the aisle. Mostly because she was his possession to sell off to the highest bidder. Thankfully this is not the case any longer. You don’t have to be restricted by who you pick for this very momentous job. It is perfectly acceptable to walk down the aisle with your mother, brother, best friend, dog, more than one person, or even all by yourself.

What is the quickest way to get RSVPs?

The easiest way to send and receive your invitations and RSVP’s is with a wedding website. You can then email your invitations, and even include a funky video, to personalise the invitation. This way guests can easily click on the link and RSVP on your wedding website.

I don’t want to be a bridesmaid, but I’ve been asked, what now?

It is best to be upfront right from the start. Once you’ve committed it will be much harder to back out. If your reason is financial, discuss it with the bride, and work out a plan together. Bridesmaids do typically pay for their own attire, hair and makeup.

Do we really need a cake?

Mostly the cutting of the cake, traditionally, signified a lifetime of prosperity. In medieval England, small spiced buns were stacked in a towering pile as an early form of a wedding cake. The bride and groom were deemed lucky if they were able to kiss over the tall stack. It has become popular to have different kinds of weddings cakes – towers of cupcakes, big round cheeses. Perhaps you can still try to kiss each other over your wedding tower and feel utterly blessed.

 

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Are dramatic wedding proposals overrated? – Gauteng Wedding Venue

We see it every year in the latest round of commercial romantic wedding films. Boy meets girl has a few issues to sort out and then nearly loses the girl, but at the end comes to his senses and rushes in like a white knight to sweep her off her feet.
We are left feeling all warm and fuzzy and this fuels those daydreams about how we want to be proposed to.  Do a quick search in YouTube and you will find further fuel for the imagination.  YouTube is a mine of self-documented proposals ranging from choreographed dances (flash mobs), magic tricks or public displays of devotion.
A girl can really get her expectations up when she feels that a proposal is imminent. Are we so desensitized by the media that a proposal has to take months of practice and involve a crew of dancers for it to be acceptable?
Defending the classical approach
Although not as flashy or dramatic the classical approach does have more opportunity to add more heart. Engaging in some deep meaningful conversation, gazing into each other’s eyes and really feeling the connection as lovers, before going down on bended knee and popping the question.
Granted  the dramatic proposal may well get a spontaneous, surprised “yes” but when the shock wears off the decision may be given more scrutiny. The beauty of the classic approach is that as the romance intensifies, the gazes smoulder both parties deeply understand their undertaking when it comes to asking and accepting.

She said yes!

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Dirty Leadership Tricks

Unlike respect that is earned, corporate leaders are given responsibility. With this added responsibility come additional strings, expectations and pressure to perform from the top. Under the pressure to get the job done a leader may well resort to using a few dirty tricks on their team. In certain circumstances it is always easier to use the stick and not the carrot. The danger of resorting to dirty tricks more and more means that over time the carrot completely disappears. Managers tend to stick with what is working and will become very skilled in the usage of these dirty tricks.

Using the inclusion/exclusion tactic

No one wants to feel like they are on the outside, especially if they have just had the ‘door’ publically closed on them. For those on the ‘inside’ there is relief that it was not them and for the one on the outside there is shame, isolation and embarrassment. By following the leader’s example and wanting recognition the team culture can quickly become vindictive to the ‘outsider’, fostering gossip and malicious activities/comments. The short-term gains of keeping the team inline are eroded over time as each team member who was excluded has less credibility and standing within the team.

Classic Bullies and Manipulators

This tactic will be all too familiar from school. Given some form of authority the person in charge quickly learns that they can ‘throw their weight around’, using intimidation and fear based methods to insure loyalty. As with a school ground bully, the team members will quickly begin to employ coping mechanisms such as avoidance, submission or becoming co-bullies. The end result is an unhealthy working environment.

My way or the highway

The leader in this instance does not allow their authority to be questioned - ever. Any actions performed by the team that are in contrary, different or even more successful than the leaders set instructions are met with extreme disapproval.  Under blind obedience the team will not grow and will be weakened by the need to constantly check for reassurance that the current task being performed is acceptable.

Evidence that a team is under bad leadership will begin to show in the productivity, team relationships and through their interactions with external parties such as clients and other departments. Team Building is a great tool to place the team dynamics under the microscope to identify bad practices and to promote and teach the use of effective leadership methods.

 

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Getting new team members on-board without breaking momentum

You’ve got a great team and the results are starting to show – better productivity, cohesion and performance. As a result of the success of the team, they have grown and been given more autonomy and responsibilities. But all good things need to come to an end as at some point the only way forward is to expand the team. But introducing new individuals to an existing team dynamic can cause the team to falter rather than soar to new heights.

A new dimension
The existing team will be comfortable with their status quo, introducing a new member can disrupt the natural flow. The team will be wary of the newcomer and tend to stick to what is familiar until they get used to the new order, which can take time and should not be left to chance. To speed up the integration the existing team needs to know in advance who the newcomer is, their skillset and what role they are expected to play in forging a new team.

Task division
Before the new member joins the team begin making it clear which tasks the new individual will be expected to take over or handle. So while the existing team is still currently performing those selected tasks they are aware that the will be a hand over. This will reduce the perceived threat that a new addition has upon joining the team.

Marking the territory
When the new member arrives they will look to carve out a space for themselves that is theirs. Have an induction program ready to show the new team member the ropes. Allocate some space for them so there is no confusion as to where they are supposed to stake out their claim in the work environment.

Reforming the team
The old team is no more and a new team must rise to surpass the old teams past performance. Early success is the key to instilling the right attitudes and work relationships. Focus on rewarding the small achievements for the whole team and not just the newest member. Use Team Building activities as a tool to mold, guide and monitor the forming of the new team. Team Building will highlight possible causes for concern in the team that can be corrected in a controlled environment before they damage the unity of the team.

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