6 Great Things to Know While Planning your Wedding

Every bride wants her wedding day to be perfect. Planning a wedding is a big challenge, making sure all the t’s are crossed and i’s dotted. Lists to make, vendors to contact, being mindful of your soon-to-be in laws. This should also be a wonderful time, filled with excitement and energy. Here are some great tips that might not know that will help make your wedding day exceed all your expectations.

  1. Choose a one-stop venue

Intundla Wedding Venue is a one-stop venue where everything happens under one roof (or sky so to speak). Your wedding ceremony, reception, accommodation, you can plan your whole weekend and book Intundla exclusively. This takes care of a lot of unnecessary stress when planning your wedding, guest accommodation, etc.

  1. Be flexible with your wedding date

If you can handle waiting till closer to your suggested wedding date, and you are flexible about the date of your wedding day, then you’d be surprised at the discounts you can negotiate. Most wedding venues and vendors are more able to offer discounts to brides with a shorter timeline because they are trying to fill up their bookings. But be warned if you want a specific date for your wedding it is best to book well in advance, especially if it is over a weekend!

  1. Learn to relax

Take a deep breathe! Between now and (probably when your kids leave home) your wedding day there will be plenty of things that will go wrong or things happening that you didn’t plan for. The quicker you learn to take a step back, breathe deep, keep your sense of humour and relax, the better.

  1. Have healthy snacks

On your wedding day the excitement will be rampant and you might not even feel like having breakfast! But make sure you nibble on healthy snacks and have some ready in your bridal party’s dressing room. Cheese, nuts, biltong and some fresh fruit will give you the energy you need to take those big steps down the aisle. Some people even advise the bride to have a few pregnancy nausea lozenges in her bag, they work wonders to settle the stomach!

  1. Choose the best light for photos

Light can transform a wedding photo into something quite magnificent, if you pick the right time of day. Your photographer will be able to help you with this so ask for advice about where the best spots for your wedding portraits will be, and when the prime time will be to take your wedding photos. You might choose to have your photos taken before or after your wedding ceremony depending on the time of day.

  1. Plan for extra time

No matter how meticulous your planning things always tend to take a little longer than planned. Leave extra time for everything. This is the key to having a stress free wedding and you want to be relaxed and having fun, not running around in a hurry.

If you have any questions please talk to our Wedding Coordinators, they are experienced and can help you plan a successful and memorable Wedding.

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Mindfulness could be your answer to be more fecund at Work

According to Psychology Today – “Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention on the present. When you’re mindful, you observe your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. Instead of letting your life pass you by, mindfulness means living in the moment and awakening to experience.”

But what does all this mean to you and how can this help you to be more productive? Recent studies show that it is a good way to reduce anxiety, depression, and stress, all things that can keep us from functioning at our optimum.

We live busy lives. From the moment you wake up in the morning your focus is divided between a multitude of things vying for your attention. You grab your smartphone next to your bed and it only gets worse, emails, social sites, etc. While brushing your teeth you tend to the kids and the dog! Missing out on the beautiful sunrise, or the way the dog waggled its tail at your kid’s funny antics.

Once at the office your day is a one big blur of activities, paperwork, phone calls and people. Driving home after work is no better with high volumes of traffic, noise, billboards, shouting and hooting. Till you finally get home wanting to collapse on the couch like a stack of cards, but this is a privilege of few.

It is no wonder then that we feel stressed, overworked and anxious. What mindfulness teaches us is to be present in the moment, to be aware of our surroundings, our thoughts and feelings, without judgement.

At the office this would mean being fully present while chatting to a colleague, being aware of your emotions and thoughts, even if they are negative without judging them. Then gently steering your thoughts into a more positive direction.

So how do we achieve mindfulness?

Mostly a sense of mindfulness can be practised using some form of meditation and perhaps a mantra or word that you focus on. As with anything else the more you practise the better you get so don’t give up on yourself. Once you’ve mastered meditation you should practise mindfulness in a more informal way throughout your day, focusing your attention on your moment-to-moment sensations during everyday activities.

This is how to apply mindfulness in an informal manner:

  • Start by focussing your attention to the different sensations in your body.
  • Take a deep breath through your nose.
  • Breathe out through your mouth.
  • Think of a word that sums up how you’re feeling at the moment.
  • If it is a negative thought gently move the word to the side.
  • If the word is positive dwell on it for a moment.
  • Notice the sensations in your body.
  • See what’s in front of you.
  • Proceed with your work fully engaged while still noticing sight, touch and sound and savouring every sense.

Bring your Team to Intundla for a Conference and/or Team building session, we’re situated in prime Game Reserve surroundings only 30 minutes from Pretoria, the perfect venue to practise Mindfulness.

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How to Boost your Creativity

We all know that kids are pretty creative. You just have to look at any five year old playing to be utterly amazed at their creativity. Have you ever wondered then, how and when we lose our creative geniuses, or do we lose them, maybe they just hibernate a bit? As a Conference Venue we always aim to give our clients an experience that they will remember and sometimes you need extra creativity to make that happen. Which apparently we do because they keep coming back! Here is what we’ve learned about creativity.

We’ve learned that the biggest enemy of creativity is fear, we probably all know this on some deeper level. And of course we’re not born with fear it is something that creeps up on us and we become more afraid about more things over time, and by the time we’ve reached adulthood, well we’re pretty scared! So what are we most afraid of? Possible the biggest fear all adults face is losing face! This fear starts from a relatively young age already when we start competing for things like attention, praise and recognition. And escalates in our teenage years when we’d rather disappear into a crowd than stand out and get any attention!

So if fear is an enemy of creativity how do we combat fear? Well a surprising insight is that creativity is also an enemy of fear! Taking any steps of action in a creative manner boosts self-esteem that in turn decreases fear.

So let’s look at fear a bit closer.

F – False

E – Evidence

A – Appearing

R – Real


Things (kids do) that we can do to increase our Creativity

Become curious again

If you look at any child they have an insatiable thirst for knowledge and how things work. The more you engage your mind in exploring new and interesting things, the more your creative juices will start flowing.

Take risks

Kids are less concerned with what others will think and more focused on the outcome – having fun! Along the way they learn a lot.

Keep trying

Have you ever looked at a small child mastering a skill like standing or walking? They just go at it over and over and over without ever giving up. They’re not afraid of failing even though they keep falling!

Daydream

Don’t be afraid to dream again, and to dream BIG!

If you think your Team could do with some creativity boosting then come to our Conference and Team building Venue near Pretoria, only 30 minutes away and situated in a prime Game Reserve. This is the perfect venue to come and inspire your creative genius!

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Different Characters at a Wedding

Intundla Wedding Venue looks at some non-traditional roles that can be overlooked but are often the most essential in keeping your wedding pointing firmly away from disaster.

From the moment the groom to be kneels in front of his intended and utters these 4 words “will you marry me?” a force of nature is unleashed that is capable of sweeping whole families, relatives and friends along in a relentless surge to the altar and the ultimate commitment of those 4 words.
It’s only in hindsight that we see how much of what happened was by the good fortune of having the right people step in at the right time and at the right place.

While some of the roles are traditionally assigned, such as the Best Man and Maid of Honour and shouldn’t be altered, at least not during the same wedding preparations! And others are cast in stone, like Bride and Groom and unfortunately the In-Laws (although you don’t have to live with the In-Laws… hopefully)!


The planner

There is a reason that this has become an employment opportunity as it is not necessary that the poor bride’s shoulders be burdened with all this responsibility. It is also not a prerequisite that the bride has to have the time and be gifted with the art of making notes and drawing up lists, keeping deadlines, tracking responses, updating gift registries, etc. and besides there is a lot on the brides plate already. So look for a planner, you don’t necessarily have to pay one, as there are usually a few of these compulsive list makers in the immediate family.

How to spot them – they have a pen and paper ready at all times and are always working off some sort of list. Their approach to tasks is planned in a logical step by step process where jumping from step 1 to step 4 never ever happens!

What they are good for – Keeping things on track, organised, neat and tidy. Crunching numbers and holding you to your budget.

Possible Pitfalls – The planner has an unfortunate need to be in control and once firmly secured in the driving seat will not be budged or swayed by ideas and suggestions that are not their own! So relinquish control at your own peril.


The Peacemaker

This is an emotional time where the people in certain roles (In-Laws, Mother-of-the-Bride, etc.) want to have their say too and have their own expectations for your wedding. When the train tracks divide and the new direction becomes a point of contention for certain parties, then you will need a peacemaker to step in and keep the planning on track by applying emergency first aid to any bruised egos.

How to spot them – These characters are genial, non-volatile, easy going and good at defusing potential conflicts, it helps if they are chubby and rosy cheeked.

What they are good for – Helping the inevitable different fractions, that planning a wedding creates, feel heard and valuable. Use them as messengers, peace envoys and negotiators.

Possible pitfalls – can be a bit too laid back or not assertive enough when the fit really hits the shan.


The Decider

Weddings require so many levels of decisions that the average person can get decision fatigue which will cause them to randomly select themselves into a tangled mess. Enter the decision maker who always has a clear picture of the ultimate goal and can decide in an instant whether bone white or ivory napkins are going to bring you closer to that goal or lead you off course.

How to spot them – They are the take charge no nonsense types that can spot an open parking bay in a busy mall and have the fastest route planned to get you there before you can say “um… so where shall we park?”.

What are they good for – making the tough decisions, negotiating with suppliers, getting people to be in the right places at the right times and going in as acting sheriff to sort everyone out when your Peacemaker has been shot down.

Possible pitfalls – Can be power mad control freaks so treat with care.


The Party Starter

Empty silences, awkward foot shuffling, conversations about the weather and empty dance floors are a thing of the past when a Party Starter is in the room.

How to spot them – You will usually hear them coming before you see them. They always have lots of jokes or stories that are told in an animated often side-tracked, convoluted delivery, but are none the less entertaining for all the detours and backtracking.

What they are good for – Breaking the ice and keeping the fun dial turned up!

Possible pitfalls – Can get a bit sulky if the spotlight moves off them and become impossible drama queens when they run out of fun juice. So keep them topped up with plenty of attention!

There is a lot to do and plan to get a wedding right on the day. In fact regardless of all the meticulous planning some of the best, most memorable wedding days have come together only with the help of a few special people and some unplanned, good old fashioned luck.

At Intundla Wedding Venue we are pro’s at making your special day a memorable one for all the right reasons!  Talk to us about all your needs and we can assist with finding the best service providers, Photographers, Hair and Make-up, Gowns, etc.

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