Conference Attendees 10 Best Stress Busters

We are all part of the rat race and no one slows down until they’re retired and even then your 
retired buddies will want you to join all the clubs so you can keep busy. Apart from all the negative health effects like high blood pressure and heart disease, stress also slows down your productivity and effectiveness as well as completely snuffs out your creative side.

So we’ve decided to ask some regular conference attendees at Intundla Game Lodge how they keep stress under wraps. And from their answers we’ve compiled the
10 best stress busters.

1. Be Active

Exercise has for a long time been proven to reduce stress and anxiety. New research now suggests that better still is walking barefoot. There is a whole science behind this and they call it “Earthing” which really means that we need to be grounded and connect with nature, the closer we get to nature the better for our health – and stress levels. Because salt water is an incredible source of free electrons “Earthing” by walking barefoot along the seashore in the sea water would be first prize but for those who are denied this luxury a close second would be walking on dewy grass in the morning.

2. Take Control
Simplify your life – by getting rid of all the clutter and this can be emotional as well as materialistic clutter. Learn to prioritise – we all have to cope with 24 hour days, in order to take control of your life you have to let go of some of the things that are less important. Juggling everything and trying to do all at once won’t help your situation either. Decide what is important and focus on that first, everything else can either wait or even better, let it go!

3. Build Boundaries
Meditation is one of the best stress busters. This ensures you get out of your head and gives better clarity on your goals. The only way you can achieve this is if you have boundaries and learn to say NO! You are not the superhero saving the world and everyone is entitled to a little me time some time.

4. Challenge Yourself
If you are constantly challenging yourself with learning a new skill, e.g. a new language, a different sport, etc. your focus will shift from being apathetic to being a resilient positive thinking person. This increases your coping mechanisms with stress.

5. Avoid Unhealthy Habits
Grabbing for the pack of smokes every time you face difficulty or drinking more than you should to alleviate your stress will only create more problems in the long run. Unhealthy habits don’t solve anything and is more like putting your head in the sand. Rather look for positive and deliberate ways of working through your adversities, this way you will build better coping tools.

6. Do Volunteer Work
You will be amazed at the difference it will make when you see your own problems in perspective. When faced with how others are suffering it is guaranteed to shift your perspective making you more likely to count your blessings than brood over your hardships.

7. Work smarter
Work smarter not harder. Collaborate and cooperate with others to get the job done faster and more efficiently. Be pro-active in the way you seize each day and make sure you manage your time well – schedule a 5 minute meeting with yourself every morning and establish what is most important to do that day. This way you can tackle the day head on and avoid wasting time on things that can wait or be put off altogether.

8. Be Positive
Know yourself, your strengths and limitations. Be deliberate in looking at things in an optimistic light and appreciating the things that matter. Laughing is the best medicine and all round cure for stress. Learn to be a kid again and to enjoy the simple easy things in life, and to enjoy life! Celebrate your life!

9. Accept the things you cannot change
Trying to keep an iron grip on everything and to keep control over everything and everyone can intensify your stress levels. Learn to let go of the things you have no control over. Accept the fact that you have no control over other people and that the only thing you can control is your own attitude and behaviour. Make peace with the order that things change, nothing stays the same – if you’re in a bad situation remember … this too shall pass.

10. Connect with people
Two are better than one, a cord of three strands is not quickly broken. The better your support network and your resources, the easier it will be to face problems. You can share your trepidations with co-workers and friends, which could bring new perspective and ease your fears.

 

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Working With People You Don’t Like

Below we’ll explore ways of getting along with people you don’t like in more depth, but one sure fire way is to spend time with the person in an informal way. Even though this might not sound like something you’d enjoy the best way to get to know someone is by sharing a meal or a team build. Intundla Conference Centre near Gauteng offers a variety of products and facilities that will help you solve problems at the workplace and overcome obstacles to make your team more productive.

Most people will at some point in their careers have to deal with the unpleasantness of working with someone they don’t get along with. This could be your boss, a fellow colleague, a client or a consultant. Situations like these can be very stressful and counterproductive, zapping you of energy and joy.

Let’s look at some strategies for overcoming a very difficult, sometimes delicate but very real issue in most work places.

Tolerance

“What is tolerance? It is the consequence of humanity. We are all formed of frailty and error; let us pardon reciprocally each other’s folly – that is the first law of nature.”  – Voltaire (François-Marie Arouet), French Writer.

This is often the first step towards working with people we don’t like in a way that’s not only productive but might even open up doors to opportunities we would otherwise have missed. We are all different people with varied personalities and behaviours, an array of cultural backgrounds, etc. Try keeping an open mind when dealing with people and give them the same amount of respect that you would like to receive.

Find a confidant outside of work

The first thing we normally do when a colleague gets on our nerves is to find someone that will agree with our aggravations and help in slandering the person’s bad habits. Rather than gossiping about this person at work find someone outside of the workplace that you trust to discuss the situation with, someone that can be objective and give you sound advice.

Be in control of your emotions

Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups. Empathy and walking in someone else’s shoes will make it easier to understand the other person, maybe they are having a hard time at home or struggling with health issues or have a worry or concern you’re not aware of. Studying people and getting insight into the games people play to get their own will also clarify why someone behaves the way they do. We all manipulate others to a certain degree at times; the secret is to know when you’re being manipulated and how to turn the tables for the good of both parties.

Other ways of staying in control is to practise deep breathing exercises when you know someone gets you hot under the collar. Meditation and exercise will also help you to be more in control of your emotions in general, which will assist in bad situations.

Connect and engage

As mentioned above one of the best ways to get along with people is to get to know them better. Find common ground, you might surprise yourself and begin to like the person. Celebrate each other’s differences and focus on things that you like or respect about the other person, e.g. they might be meticulous with time and be well disciplined, and they might have a great sense of humour or be very effective in time management. This could be hard at first but will be well worth it in the end. It could even become one of your greatest assets – the ability to always find the good in others!

Sit down and talk about it

Discussing it will be the most difficult of tactics and you have to be careful in your approach. Be aware of the dynamics between you and always be respectful in your attitude. Stay calm and tackle the problem systematically. Start by acknowledging the tension and be specific about behaviour that is causing it. Use examples of situations if possible and explain how this makes you feel. Be prepared to listen to the other person’s perspective without interrupting them and stay open minded to suggestions of how to resolve this. Offer your willingness and determination to build a better relationship.

No great relationship comes without hard work and will power and very few relationships will not thrive when giving it your positive attitude and kindness.

The highest result of education is tolerance. – Helen Keller

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